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April 4th, 2013

Easter – behind the scenes

 We paint the eggs.

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We make the flags.

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We bake the carrot muffins for Easter bunny

and decorate them with a symbol of Jesus and colourful eggs.

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We celebrate Easter!

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What is Easter all about? Is it eggs, bunnies, chocolates?

Is it Jesus?

Is it a long weekend, a chance to get away, a weekend of obligation?

Is it a celebration?

Is it a pagan tradition that pre-dates Christianity?

All of the above?

Or none.

What does Easter mean to you?

March 30th, 2013

A magical mystery tour – Seahorse Safari

Stuff I didn’t know about seahorses until this morning:

  • They’re fish
  • Boy seahorses carry the fertilised eggs and give birth to young
  • They eat meat
  • Their only defence is camouflage, bless them
  • They like to dance, sometimes all night
  • The smallest seahorse is half an inch long and the biggest can grow up to about 8 inches
  • There are only 35 known species
  • They are mostly found in the seas of Australia, China and the Philippines!
  • They are listed as one of the Near Threatened creatures on this planet. This spunky Leafy Sea Dragon for instance is threatened by pollution and loss of habitat

What a treat to have been on of the first to see the new seahorse exhibit at SeaLife, Darling Harbour!

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Such fantastic and gentle creatures seahorses are.  These shy and rarely-seen animals really do capture the imagination which is why kids (and mums with active imaginations) are so drawn to them.  Here are some of my girls’ favourites seahorse books:

9 year old’s picks:

  • Sign of the Seahorse, A Tale of Greed and High Adventure by Graham Base
  • The Field Guide to Ocean Animals by Phyllis Perry

4 year old’s picks:

  • Secret Seahorse by Stella Blackstone and Clare Beaton
  • Mr Seahorse by Eric Carle

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It’s easy to love these creatures, and the more children get to know them through books or real-life encounters, then a happier future might lie ahead for the seahorse. To know them is to love them, and to love them is to protect them.

Seahorse conservation link (Australia): http://www.seahorse-australia.com.au/pages/conservation.html 

 

March 27th, 2013

Sisters

Sometimes they get along. Often, they don’t. They remind me of what my sister and I were likened to, growing up quarrelling much and getting along little. “Aso’t pusa” they’d say, cat and dog.

Half of it is to do with their age-gap; there’s almost 6 years between them. And the other half can be put down to personality differences or temperament. It’s probably unfair to whittle their huge personalities down to simple words, but to try to make sense of things, I see one as the thinker and the other, the doer; the aesthete and the athlete. To illustrate, my lil’ thinker was singing Beatles songs before she could toddle five steps straight, and my lil’ doer was flying down the stairs even before she could utter the words “ouch”.

But they are who they are, and with the passage of time (and as most sisters go), they will probably be best friends when they grow into women. That is, if they follow Lewis Carroll’s advice and “never stew your sister”

Still, there are moments of rare collaboration between the two, unsolicited by me, that just make my day.

 

Their age-gap means that they’re occupying different head spaces to each other, which is why they sometimes clash. Mils is still in the early part of childhood while Bean is inching towards adolescence.  I must say though that what they have in common is that they are both in the precipice of the next stage of development - Mils is approaching the start of schooling and Bean is approaching high school. Both are coming towards a new consciousness and awakening. Both are learning new ways of being themselves with a little less dependence on Mama and Papa.  But of course they don’t see that! Bean just thinks Mils is ‘annoying’ and Mils thinks Ate is ‘mean’.

I don’t buy into it. Or rather, I’ve  learnt not to buy into it. I used to worry so much when they’d fight and I’d give them a good talking to after each and every time. Not only was it a waste of my breath, it was doing more harm than good. It’s negative reinforcement. A quick reprimand and a look is all I go for now, and carry on. Rather than look out for the wrongs, I try to keep an eye out for the awesome instead, and hand out high fives for those.

Whether or not that’s good parenting, I don’t know (who knows?), but it suits our family. I think it’s working OK.

Happy hump day, ya’ll, and enjoy the extended summer (making my previous entry about cold weather an absolute crock)!

March 20th, 2013

Work cattiness

 

This is how I get work done (like a bawse) from home.  Instead of dodging office politics, I dodge cat cuteness. There is peace in working in your fluffy socks and comfort in the presence of felines in the room.  Them cats really have the work/life balance thing down pat.

Here is an interesting read on How a Cat Boosts Your Creativity (from brainpickings.com)

… the tranquility of the cat will gradually come to affect you.

 

March 7th, 2013

Circles and boxes

One of the nice things I did this summer was go see an author talk at the Opera House. Elizabeth Gilbert is famously known as the author of the best-seller, Eat, Pray, Love. Her talk was entitled, “Life after Eat, Pray, Love” so I felt a little silly sitting there having never read a page of that book and then paid money to find out what was to come next. Chatting with the lady next to me (clearly a fan), I sheepishly admitted the above mentioned and timidly added that I saw the movie version of E.P.L only after it came out on DVD. Suffice to say, I’m a pretty useless fan. Though I’ve never read her bestselling novel, I did see her TED talk (me and a million others) about writing and creativity which excited and moved me. She didn’t disappoint – I enjoyed her candidness, her honesty, her American-ness, and how she distils her chosen career down to the simplest term; she writes because she’s not particularly good at anything else (so she says).

Gilbert’s Ideas at the House talk was filmed and if you want to, you can see it on the Opera House blog.

After her talk, I picked up a copy of – no, not Eat, Pray, Love – but her first novel, The Last American Man. In this novel, Gilbert profiles the remarkable Eustace Conway, adventurer and wilderness man extraordinaire. There’s a handful of stuff written about him on the web such as this and about his nature reserve, TV stint, and more recently his run-in with the law. But he is more widely known as the guy who, as a teenager, left the suburbs to live entirely off the land in a teepee in the woods. He has since walked, kayaked and ridden a horse across many countries, and all the while living off nature and shunning consumerism and modern comforts.

Conway’s whole concept of completely living off the land is so hard core – sewing buckskin (from an animal he hunted himself with a spear) to make a shirt using sinew from the animal’s flesh as thread – that I’m captivated by the story. I mean, who does that?! In the novel Gilbert writes that Conway would quickly answer, “Our ancestors did, for thousands of years, dumbass.” She also talks about how rigid he is with his vision, how pure he remains to his beliefs, that beyond the romance and allure of the “mountain man” idea, there lies a stubborn darkness deep inside Conway, and a capacity for ruthlessness.

In spite of that, people love him. They are drawn to his charisma, his message, and I guess his strangeness. For me it’s the latter; oddballs interest me, particularly ones who don’t give a flying fox (Hungry and weary on the Appalachian trail, Conway didn’t think twice about skinning a flying fox and eating it raw). Oh, and did I mention that he managed to get a degree in natural history while living in a teepee just outside of his university campus? How about that time when he was welcomed into someone’s home and exclaimed with no hint of irony, “My, you have a lot of material possessions!” When asked why he reckons teenagers are awestruck after hearing him speak about living in the woods, he said it’s because he’s probably the only real person they’ve ever met. Here’s an excerpt from the book in which Conway talks about cirlces and boxes to a bunch of teens:

“I live,” Eustace said, “in nature, where everything is connected, circular. The seasons are circular. The planet is circular, and so is its passage around the sun. The course of water over the earth is circular, coming down from the sky and circulating through the world to spread life and then evaporating up again. I live in a circular teepee and I build my fire in a circle, and when my loved ones visit me, we sit in a circle and talk….. People say I don’t live in the real world, but it’s modern Americans who live in a fake world, because they’ve stepped outside the natural circle of life….Do people live in circles today? No. They live in boxes. They wake up every morning in the box of their bedroom because a box next to them started making beeping noises to tell them it was time to get up. They eat their breakfast from a box. Then they leave the box where they live and get into a box with wheels and drive, to work which is just another big box broken up into lots of little cubicle boxes where a bunch of people spend their days sitting and staring at the computer boxes in front of them. When the day is over, everyone gets into the box with wheels again and goes home to their house boxes and spends the evening staring at the TV box for entertainment. They get their music from a box, they get their food from a box, they keep their clothing in a box, they live their lives in a box! Does that sound like anybody you know?”

By now the kids were laughing and applauding.

“Break out of the box!” Eustace said. “You don’t have to live like this!…You’re not handcuffed to your culture! This is not the way humanity lived for thousands and thousands of years, and it is not the only way you can live today!”

I’d argue that boxes are terribly convenient, as is shampoo and tinned tuna, but I wouldn’t be able to get far with that argument because Conway is unmovable when it comes to matters of right and wrong, convenience and substance. It’s an interesting read; food for thought. What are you reading?

Oh stop reading this – go outside already! Have a good weekend!

March 1st, 2013

So long, summer

She couldn’t wait any longer, could she? Autumn with her wild orange hair and wood-smokey eyes came to us a day early, stretched herself wide across Sydney and settled down for the season. Welcome, dear autumn (though you come too soon), make yourself at home.

You know that summer is ending when the light starts to fade earlier in the afternoons, your toes start niggling for socks, and your gut slows down and starts craving warm soups and spicy curries. Or is it just me?! Well, it’s happenin’, folks. The seasonal change is upon us.

But wasn’t summer amazing? This summer was one of the best I’ve had in a long time. All the beaching, sunning, swimming, and family reunitin’. So please forgive me for being awol from this space this summer. We were out and about and when it was time to come back ‘in’, there was so much work to catch up with at home and in the office. Plus the start of the new school year for both of my girls meant that preparations were in order.  But while I was away, I was thinking of you.

I thought that once I got back here I’d tell you about some of the things I’m thankful for this summer:

  • Christmas visitors who graced our celebrations all the way from the Philippines. The house was never more lively with kids in every room and outings everyday.
  • All the pyjamas I got for Christmas!
  • The sprinklers at the park for turning on right on time to cool us down from the 40 degree heat at Mils’ 4th birthday party.
  • Super understanding bosses who let me have two holidays, before and after Christmas, and still take time off during the office shut-down period in between. So long as I handed in those 2 reports and knocked off my huge actions list, that is.
  • Gigs that came in for Ga.
  • Mamati and Papati for being married for 40 years and for deciding to celebrate in a big way by throwing a massive party and sending us over there to be with them. And for letting us see Panglao island for the first time.
  • Davao. For being so full of family. And for being so damn charming, with her  fruits, Mt Apo, nightly torrential downpour, and her child-like Tagalog/Bisaya speak that makes the assertation “you’re a pain in the ass” sound innocuous, cute even (i.e. samoka mo uy!)
  • Massages. Had a couple of mind-blowing massages while on holidays. Not like how it sounds – although I was very happy at the ending.
  • The fact that my week-long bout of gastro was in fact, not cholera.  Ehem…nuff said.
  • Tito Jed for blessing my sister and I with his Ermita pad and his time. His intellect, sentimentality and easy manner makes him such fun to be with.
  • The time I spent with Papa. Just me and the Guv’na. It’s been many years since it was just us two, chewing the fat, shooting the breeze, comparing tattoos… it felt normal, and nice.
  • All the salt water, sand and pools we had the pleasure of meeting. My kids slept well because of you.
  • My parents who made sure we had rides to and from the airport and milk in our fridge when we got home.

Have I left anything out? I probably have. I send out my gratitude to the universe for all that and more.

As my tan fades and my nose starts sniffling on this blustery day, I look forlornly back at that wonderful summer; her golden hair, her turquoise eyes. I will carry her soft warm glow inside me for as long as I can.

Summer is always gone too soon while colder months seem to last forever. What makes you look forward to cold weather (I mean besides wearing boots)?